tumblr_ni37kf69Me1tgj5a6o1_1280The law of attraction (LOA) at it’s most basic level is that like attracts like. If you are going to attract certain things, you are dreaming of, in your life you will need to think, act and believe in “like” things.

Your thinking is critical. This life you are living is the result of everything you have thought and believed up to this point.  You can change your life only by changing your thinking. You may have read Wayne Dyer’s best selling book Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life, if not I suggest you do. The title says it all. You are standing on a pivot point moving away from the life you know, to this dream you have for your life. Thinking the same thoughts will keep you stuck in your old life.

Oh, if thinking differently was that easy, everyone would do it. The problem is, we are all so invested in our thoughts and beliefs that we don’t want to live without them. We are like children with our toys, these are my thoughts and even if they don’t serve me, I’m going to keep them for myself! Because who would we be without our thoughts? Maybe a better person? Is that even possible? Here’s the rub: You don’t get what you want in life, you get what you focus on.

Who would we be without our thoughts? Let’s take a moment to explore who we would be. As part of “The Work” Byron Katie teaches us to dissect our thoughts and if they don’t serve us, can we think of another way to think about that subject that makes us feel better and serves our life or even to reject the thought altogether? Scary stuff. If you have thoughts that do not serve you I suggest you do “The Work” to decide if there might be a better way of thinking and believing that will get you farther.

Here is my 3 Step Shortcut for bypassing thoughts that don’t serve:

Step 1. Notice the thought that isn’t working for you, or as Mary Morrissey says “notice what you are noticing.” for example the thought “I hate my work.”

Step 2. Find another way. Well, that’s a negative thought and not going to help attract your dream. Is there another way to say that thought that is just as true and not negative?”….pause…this is very difficult so you will find lots of resistance here. How about: “I like the people I work with and certain aspects of my job.” still true and not negative.

Step 3. Integrate that into your belief system. “I know in my heart there are many aspects of my job I like.”

If you believe something different you will get different results. That is, only if you want different results. You may think, this is all too Pollyanna, I can say what I mean and mean what I say. I don’t believe in fairy farts, unicorns and rainbows. GREAT BIG CAUTION HERE.

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” Henry Ford

Take some time to think about what you are thinking about. Think positive thoughts to attract positive results.

Here is an example of a thought that might be keeping you from attracting your dream. “I’m too old to attract the man of my dreams.” Is that really true? Are women your age unattractive or are there no women your age with great men. Maybe that statement is not true, maybe the following statement is more true and it can be yours if you will replace it with the old belief that is not working for you, “There are many women my age who enjoy great relationships with good men and I can too.” Now your focus is on a different reality and since you get what you focus on… Isn’t this statement as true or even more true than I’m too old to attract the man of my dreams?

Besides changing you thoughts, there are two other important aspects of the law of attraction. We’ve talked a bit about belief being the end result of thinking. Thinking something until it becomes a part of our belief system is important but really more of the same exercise in changing your thoughts.

The other important aspect of LOA is acting “as if”. Act as if your dream has already come true. Edwine Gaines, a great mystic of our times, has a darling story about dreaming of going on a trip to Mexico City but she didn’t have two pennies to rub together. She had faith and wanted that trip badly! Her dream teacher told her she needed to get into a state of feeling rich. She was so poor it was a struggle for her to imagine herself rich. So she went to the grocery store and bought the things she thought rich people bought…almond stuffed olives, she invited a friend to her apartment swimming pool, drank margaritas and ate those “expensive” olives. After a few other acts of faith and act as if’s she got to Mexico City. Take one aspect of your dream and do something creative to act “as if” it was already happening.

Good vibrations. In order to attract positive results in your life you must get to a positive place in your heart. Centering yourself in gratitude and self-love are ways to get to that positive place. Everyday my husband and I tell each other at least three things we are grateful for. We add a little fun to this exercise in that at least one gratitude must be a little off the wall. I’m grateful for my children and grandchildren, I’m grateful for the beauty that surrounds me, I’m grateful for fresh bananas in  grocery stores. Find the little things in life you can be grateful for and you will see major changes in your life almost immediately. Again, we get what we focus on so focus on everything good and you will get more of that in your life.

Tania Kotosos puts this very eloquently: “You do not have to learn to work with or apply the Law of Attraction. Being a Universal Law, it is already working perfectly in your life, whether or not you understand or accept it, and it never ceases to operate. Your primary goal is to adjust your mental attitude by changing your predominant thoughts and beliefs while creating a need or purpose for that which you want to create in your life. To become the master of your life, you must master your mind, not the Law of Attraction. It is already a master unto itself.” MindYourReality.com

If you are focused on your dream, you will be attracted to the ways to get you to that dream. Little, synchronous, clues to your path will emerge. Keep your dream in front of you daily. Stay focused on what you want, stay focused with a heart filled with gratitude and positivity.